Don’t Call Me Rach, But Text Me!

Background: Below is my first correspondence with “Jonah” from Plenty of Fish

(blue = boypink = girl, black = my thoughts)

A lot of people think I am Jew (my name is Jonah and I grew up in the Riverdale section of the Bronx, like [town] if you don’t know NYC)… how are you?
-Jonah

He’s referring to the “Jewish” in my profile.

Hi Jonah! Yes, many Jonah’s are Jewish, that’s true. It’s also one of my favorite names :-)
I’m good! I just got back from a long vacation to India and Nepal. Trip of a lifetime.
Are you having a good weekend?hello my name is
-Rachel- (yes, a very Jewish name!)

Notice my use of “Rachel”

Let’s meet, Rach. For coffee this morning ? 8, 9, 10 ?
Let me knows.

Why is it OK to just shorten my name without asking me?  Especially for a name that’s not shortened the majority of the time, like Jonathan to Jon.  Ask first. But, probably not before I even meet you!

Hi – Sorry today wasn’t a good day. How about another time this week? What works for you? Tues pm?
-Rachel-

Again, notice my use of “Rachel”don't text me

Rach. Text me 212-555-1212
Can’t we write more in email? :-)

Or, said differently, “I don’t want to text you”. And, why so demanding?!?  Asking will probably get you further in life!

Sure we can do whatever you like ! I just figure it’s better to just meet, even if just for a few minutes. So much better than e-mail, no ? ttys 
Ok so let’s meet! When? :-)
Today ! Where are you during the day ? Just text it’s easier… 😉

See above… didn’t I say I didn’t want to text?  And, didn’t he just say “sure, whatever you like”?

Can’t today, how about tuesday night?
Done ! Text me and we’ll set it up !

Again with the texting?

Great! What time? Where? I’m in [town].
5:00? Meet at the T and we can decide from there. Is that easy enough for you ? Where are you going to be coming from ?

My Thoughts: I just think it’s rude to assume you can shorten someone’s name without asking!  Particularly when you don’t even know each other.  And, particularly for a name like Rachel — it’s not like it’s shortened the majority of the time, like Jon or Jeff!

Also, I have to say, requesting that we email instead of text isn’t that big of a request.  If you can’t accommodate my needs of something so simple and clear, I’m honestly not sure how you’re going to accommodate any more difficult needs in our future relationship!  :-)

Men switching from email to text is so common these days, and I am not a fan.  I text all the time, but don’t use it as a way to get to know someone!

My Response: We did end up going out, and it was pretty much a disaster. It ended with me walking out before the bill was even paid. I have NEVER done that before!  Take care, Jonah. And, please DON’T text me. -Rach-