Someone in the House

Background:  A couple months ago, I went back and forth with “Richard” on for a few days, and we made plans to go to coffee at 6pm on Sunday. We texted a couple of time to confirm where we were meeting.

I got all prettied up and went to meet Richard at the local coffee shop.  I’m not the most on-time person (but I DO text if I’m running late), so for me to get there on time, and have no Someone in the Houseone waiting for me, was not a usual experience for me!  I sat down and waited.  And waited.

6:15pm, I texted, “Are you still coming?”

No response

6:30pm, I headed home.

6:36pm, he texted, “I have someone in the house. Surprise visit… sorry.”

6:45pm, I texted, “And you couldn’t have let me know so I wasn’t waiting for you for 1/2 hour?!? Don’t contact me again.”

My Thoughts: I got stood-up! That was one of the most inconsiderate things I’ve ever had happened.  There are so many ways he could have gotten in touch with me before I was waiting for him for 1/2 hour!  Even thinking that he possibly had another woman over… then go to the bathroom and text me! Also, if you blow someone off like that, I think it’s worthy of a phone call apology, or at least a more emphatic text “I’m really sorry… I lost track of time, I don’t know what I was thinking, can I make it up to you?…”

My Response: That’s it.  Don’t contact me again.  He texted and emailed me a couple more times, all just to say “hi” and no apology.  Even as most recently as last week. So, that’s it!  Your loss.

A Date at Pino’s…

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A couple of years ago, I agreed to meet “Joe” for a date — we had met online. I thought it was a bad sign when he suggested we go to Pino’s on a Saturday night. (Pino’s is more or less a pizza joint, not to far from where I live.) It isn’t really a date place. Joe was quite socially awkward.

(blue = boy; pink = girl, black = my thoughts)pino's pizza

Do you have any siblings?
Yes. I have a brother
Is he married?
No. He has a girlfriend.
Does he have any children?
No I said, he has a girlfriend
Well, you can still have children even if you aren’t married

Yes, this is true, but I thought it was kind of an odd question to someone you don’t even know. 

Joe then proceeded to tell me how it is possible for a guy to have children and not even know it (yes, I thought – this was true, where is he going with this). He said that years ago, a girl called him up out of the blue because she thought he was her father. However, he reassured me that it couldn’t have been the case because he wasn’t having sex at the time.

I’m thinking – why is he telling me this story? What is the point? Finally, the date ended when he said that he thought the first date should be “short and sweet.” He then proceeded to tell me he was going to walk home in the cold (he lived a couple of miles away) and ran off.

See You at Dunkin’

Background: I had been writing back and forth on Jdate with “Moishe” for a couple of weeks, and he FINALLY asked me out!  I said yes, and then we started talking details.dunkin donuts

He emailed..

“wanna meet for a coffee and chat and then if we click maybe we can hang out somewhere

if you would like that Dunkin donuts in natick is good”

(He lives in Framingham, which is 5 minutes from Natick.  I live in Brookline, 45 minutes away.)

My Thoughts:  Sure, the location that’s closest to YOUR house, and NOWHERE near me? How about you come to meet me?  Or, even half way?  Chivalry is NOT dead!

And, Dunkin’ Donuts?  I love you, Dunkin’, but you’re not a great atmosphere for a date.  It IS a down economy, but maybe splurge on Starbucks?  I know, I’m asking a lot.  There are usually Starbucks on every corner — here’s a map if you need help locating one.  🙂

My Response: “I’m really sorry, but I’m feeling sick today, so won’t be able to get together. I’ll let you know when I’m better and can get together.”

(By the way, while I was searching for an image for this post, I came across this photo.  Maybe he thought this was me?  Well, THAT would explain his desire for Dunkin!)

dunkin nudie


Skype, the Newest Online Dating Site

Hello Dear,

How are you today..I am “Henry” I live in liverpool, presently on a short business trip to Africa,I was once married but divorced no kids… so a friend of mine introduce me to this site,{skype} i am new in the site….am here to seek for a soul mate someone who is caring, honest.. God fearing and lovely that will be a friend and soul mate to me ….await your urgent responds or email at {email address} ; thanks once again…..You can drop me your personal email address so i can email you more about myself.

skype logo

Ha ha, who knew that I could find my soul mate on Skype?  Apparently I’m looking in the wrong places!

A “Man’s” Type of Surgery (Part 1)

Background:  A nice guy IM’d me on Plenty of Fish, and I accepted his IM. I normally receive the IM’s, rush to check out the profile, and if he “passes”, then I click yes!  “Tim” seemed nice enough, so I accepted, and this was our conversation:

(blue=boy; pink=girl)

hello how are you?scissors
i’m good, how are you?
glad to hear it 🙂 im doing ok thanks
enjoying your day?
yes, a bit tired today, but otherwise, good!
good i am tired also. must be the weather !!
why are you tired?
i was up and down all night last night and didnt get a good nights rest
oh, that’s too bad
had some surgery done tuesday so i have not been sleeping well the past 2 nights. 
oh no! are you ok?
im feeling a little better thanks. it was pretty routine surgery and elective thank goodness !! i guess you would call it a “mans” type of surgery !!
oh, ok 🙂
i won’t ask anymore!
it is late for my age but it was for a circumcision so it takes longer to recover from than when dont to a baby boy
we guys have it so tough LOL
vey interesting
mine was actually a partial circumcision so it is not as bad as having the entire procedure done as an adult thank goodness
my Dr actually did say it has become more common now for adult men that were not cirucumcised as babies to get it done as adults
that’s surprising. 
yes it has been decreasing over the past several years since it is not necessary to be circumcised and is very painful and traumatic for the baby
but most males in our generation have been circumcised so to be uncut can make a man feel awkward
i did it for cosmetic reasons . i just always thought i had too much excess foreskin there and was self conscious about it so i finally decided to go in and have some “trimmed” off basically
got it
also it could be somewhat awkward with women the way it was before because most here in the US have never seen an unciucmcised man before
have you ever seen it or encountered a man that was not circumcised?
wow interesting. you are not the norm thats for sure !!
was it in photos or in person?
My Thoughts: WTF, seriously?  Is this appropriate conversation for a 1st IM session?? I asked “are you ok?” the way I did, so he could share or not share.  Apparently he was dying to share about his new “assets” (or lack thereof).  And, didn’t pick up on my one word answers.
My Response: End IM session immediately.
Note: See Part 2 for the next part of this saga!

White Pants

Background: “David” and I emailed a few times on Plenty of Fish.  He asked me out on a date, and asked for my number to coordinate.  This is what happened next (David is in grey, I’m in green):

white pants

white pants

My Thoughts: Are you kidding me?  It wasn’t bad enough to tell me you were fantasizing, but I have to know it’s with another woman?

And, yes, at some point I knew where this was headed. But, I figured if this is how he is, I’d rather know it now!

My Response: Delete!

Update: I encountered Mr. White Pants again… take a read of the post: Round 2 with Mr. White Pants